It’s really interesting when I hear the horror stories
from un-assuming MLM reps that run into “NFL Drama” and
don’t know what to do about it.
By the way, “NFL” stands for “No Friends Left”.
Some MLMer’s run into this drama because they don’t really
understand that in order for them to become successful, they
need to start hanging around different people anyway.
Of course, no one UPLINE really wants to tell them that
will most likely happen but it’s a hard reality that only
those WILLING to pay the price will eventually figure out
themselves when the time is right.
Personally, I’ve lost many friends and will continue to lose more.
I also MAKE a considerable amount of NEW friends on a daily basis
(but that’s not the point of this article).
I’ve lost friends in this industry and out of this industry.
I’ve lost friends in my company and out of my company.
It sucks, sure. Is it worth it?? Well, it depends.
You see, I’m from a small town on a small Island here in Hawaii
and everybody knows (or at least they think they know) everything
about your business.
Here’s what most people might not know:
In 2006, I started making money online and told myself I would
NEVER “pitch people I knew”again just because it was too easy to
make money with people you had no pre attached emotions to.
THE DAY THE GAME CHANGED.
One day, as I sat at my computer and stared at the screen,
I felt somewhat empty. Knowing that I was helping so many people
other than my own friends and family. So many of them
were struggling financially as I just watched from the sidelines knowing
I had powerful options that could change their life.
It was easy to shake it off and continue on in my path of “cold market” success.
However, it bothered me.
After a while, the burden became heavy.
I saw a raging fire and I had a water hose.
I saw a serious problem and I had serious answer.
It started to haunt my conscience.
I knew FULL WELL there would be a price for putting myself out
there in my warm market once again, but I was committed
to that price once and for all.
To this day, I’ve created so many success stories and major
financial options for others that it seriously humbles me.
I’ve helped over 300+ people (just in my Visalus Business) get into
a BMW and make an extra $1,800-$2,000 a month.
I make it a point to never forget how just $500 can make a major
difference in peoples lives.
I’ve helped dozens of people (just in my Visalus Business) create
six figure a year incomes.
When you consider the thousands of people NOT IN VISALUS
with me that I coach & train in other companies, the numbers get astounding.
When you consider all the people that have improved their
lifestyles (health, financial, mental, etc…) through
my simple decision it is really overwhelming.
You see, here’s the thing:
It’s usually the people that don’t empower anyone and don’t
give anyone a shot at financial freedom that don’t get talked about.
They are “cool” with the crowd.
They don’t get the “bad press”.
Infact, they are the biggest “MLM Naysayers” out there (which is the funny thing).
However, the ones that give people a shot.
The ones who put themselves out there.
The ones who risk it all for the sake of others.
Those are the ones who will get the most opposition.
You can’t blame the nay sayers.
They are just programmed to be that way.
It’s just a natural way of life. It’s natural progression.
I just had a very interesting discussion with a certain someone
the other day. This person asked me if I felt bad about seeing
people fail after trying “so hard” in their MLM business only to
end up in defeat.
I asked that person if the owner of their company felt bad
about them being on welfare. Obviously, I knew their story.
I asked that person if the owner of that hotel company
felt bad about the fact that they were severely overweight.
Once again… I knew their story.
I also asked that person if anyone felt bad for ME when I was
struggling with no food in my refrigerator at times, car
repossessed, electricity shut off, with a wife and 3 kids to answer
A couple of my “friends” knew of my struggle. Offered some moral support. Nice.
Did anyone FEEL BAD for him?? For me??
I knew the answer to that question was NO. I didn’t expect anyone
to feel sorry for me. I just knew it was going to be worth it one day.
Truth is, my friends manager will CARE LESS when 15-20 years from
now when they get replaced by someone younger, smarter, faster,
who will work for less.
Ok, let’s give Mr. Manager the benefit of the doubt.
Maybe Mr. Manager WILL care.
Question is this: What options will he provide then???
Remember: Person who provides options…bad.
Person who provides none…good???
You see, I used to take it personal. However, as you become more
successful in this industry you begin to understand the
true price for success as a Network Marketing Leader.
I’m not talking about JUST a “Business Owner”,
I’m REALLY targeting the “Network Marketing Business Owners” out there.
This article isn’t a rant of some sort.
I’ve known this for years.
I’ve been where many of YOU are right now.
I write this article for those of you that wonder
how someone like myself deals with the rejection,
the loss of “friends”, the loss of…whoever
due to this industry.
You get used to it. It sucks at times.
I found myself a little down (for a minute) just
recently BUT I understand the price. I understand
the cause. I understand the Movement.
When you truly understand the price, you don’t just walk
away and give up.
I don’t know Martin Luther King personally, but I’m sure
he lost a little bit of friends.
I don’t know Ghandi personally, but I’m sure he lost
I don’t know Donald Trump personally, but I’m sure he
lost some friends.
I don’t know Bill Gates, but I’m sure he lost some
I don’t know Steve Jobs personally, but I’m sure he
lost some friends.
I don’t know Mark Zuckerburg (Founder of Facebook), but I’m
sure he lost some friends.
You better believe they made MORE (and BETTER) friends, but
that’s another article for another time.
You’ll lose friends, face it. The only ones that really MATTER, will stick by your side.
They might not rock the business with you, but they’ll always have
your back and support you.
Those who truly love you, will be there for you no matter what.
Stop worrying about the “friends” that won’t be there anyway.
It’s kinda interesting how when you make it to the top,
those “friends” will come out of the woodworks pat you on your back and
say they “knew” you’d make it anyway.
You’ll get your heart broken a little. sure.
It’ll happen. All great success stories know that it’s bound
to happen. There is NO question as to IF it will happen.
The only question is…
Will you be willing to pay the price WHEN it does?…